Mirror, Mirror, You are a Liar!

"Mirror, mirror on the wall.........?" Even though this is a quote from a fairy tale movie, people (especially women) tend to ask themselves a variation of this question. Ever noticed how the mirrors in cars have a small statement saying "objects are closer than what they appear". This disclosure made me wonder....."then what is it good for?" Truth is, MIRRORS ARE LIARS!!!!!!

We cannot trust the images we see in the mirrors. Does it mean they are totally useless? Not at all. Even though we know what we see on a side mirror of a car is deceiving we use it to determine our next action or move. However, we typically do not treat ALL mirrors the same. I wish the vanity mirrors would say "objects are fatter than what they appear" or "people are more confident than what they appear" or anything that can insert determination in us or positive affirmations. Instead we only see what we DON'T like about ourselves. If we have a pimple it appears as if we are carrying Mount Everest on our forehead, etc.

The only thing the mirror truly reflects is your biggest challenge, worst judge, and your true competition; YOURSELF. I encourage everyone to treat every mirror like you treat your car's side mirrors. Do not always rely on them without checking yourself first and do not always believe what you see. Always, question what you see and do not be afraid to ALWAYS challenge what you see!!!! And most importantly, remember that mirrors do not always show actuality.

Dealing with Change

Change is something that not everyone can handle nor accept. Change is something that we MUST get used to. Regardless of how we feel about change or deal with change, it is an inevitable phenomenon. I have seen people that refuse to enter new technology because they don't like to change what they already know. Nevertheless, at the end of it all, they end up changing because it is just inevitable. So what is it about change that scares people so much????

I believe we are creatures of habit and when a change happens it just throws us off. We like to always have control and meet our expectations. Once something alters these things we tend to get nervous. 

When I found out I was pregnant, I was "ready" to embrace the changes my body would go through. I was not ready for the mental changes nor the additional body changes that no one warned me about. I was not expecting a change to sudden paranoia and insecurities. I was not prepared for my circle of friends to change. I was not expecting for my body not to have the ability to nurse my baby either. 

There are some changes, the good ones, that we have no problem accepting and embracing them. It is the unexpected changes that shake our grounds a bit and forces us to camouflage. Even though I was not expecting these changes I learned how to appreciate them.

I learned that my body created something amazing therefore it has to mirror that change. I will not have the body I used to because my new body just gave me the best blessing I ever wanted. I changed my mindset and instead of working towards getting my body back, I am working on improving my new one.

If it wasn't for the unexpected change in friends, I would have never found a group of amazing new moms! I was forced to change my circle of friends and I am very happy with my new social life.

So, friends, do not be afraid to take that leap of faith and embrace the changes. Most of the time, change works out for your advantage. And many times if takes a big sudden change to allow yourself to expand your horizons!!!!!